Huge Bucks At Stake In Gibson Divorce

Actor Is Reportedly Worth $900M And Has No Pre-nup; Wife Could Walk Away With Half

Mel Gibson and wife Robyn filed for divorce on April 13, 2009, citing "irreconcilable differences." (CBS)

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• Mel Gibson's Wife Files For Divorce

(CBS) There's plenty on the table in the newly-announced Mel Gibson divorce case.

Plenty of money, that is.

Gibson and his wife, Robyn, filed for divorce after 28 years of marriage, both citing "irreconcilable differences." And since there's no pre-nup, there's lots of green that could be in dispute.

In his filing, Gibson writes that the couple separated in 2006, less than a month after his infamous DUI arrest. Earlier that night, he was caught partying with young women.

The Oscar-winning actor's net worth has been estimated at upwards of $900 million. In 2004, Gibson topped Forbes magazine's Celebrity Rich List, propelled by the movie "The Passion of the Christ."

His assets are said to include an entire island in Fiji that he bought for $9 million and a 400-acre ranch in Costa Rica purchased for $26 million.

But, according to CBS News legal analyst Lisa Bloom, Gibson's wife could walk away with much more than that. The couple got married before the actor amassed his fortune, she told Early Show co-anchor Harry Smith and, because there's no pre-nup, the court is going to take all the assets earned during their marriage, including all of his wealth, and divide it between the two of them.

"She gets roughly half of that," Bloom said. "It's a long marriage. She's raised their seven children. The idea is that partners in a marriage are real partners, and the court's going to recognize that."

The lawyers could get a pretty penny, as well, depending on how long the battle goes on, Bloom adds. But she notes the Gibsons are requesting privacy and may not want a lengthy public court battle. "They want to do this amicably," she says. "If they do that, the lawyers won't get very much."

Other big recent Hollywood divorce settlements include Paul McCartney's split from Heather Mills and Madonna's breakup with Guy Ritchie. But while the exes in those cases received $40-50 million, Bloom pointed out, that's nothing compared to what Robyn Gibson will get if she is awarded $450 million.

Bloom also explained that any money the actor made after the couple's 2006 separation would stay with Gibson, and the fact that she filed papers first makes no difference in terms of the outcome.

"She filed and four hours later he responded, which is really unheard of," Bloom said. "So they both had to know this was coming."

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Heavenly Honeymoons--Advice and Tips for That Perfect Getaway!

Getting married is one of the most anticipated and exciting times of your life. And your honeymoon can be the most exciting and romantic trip you will ever take, since it represents a celebration of your love, your new marriage, and the lifetime commitment you have made. How do you get that "perfect" honeymoon? As with everything else that involves marriage, it is vitally important that you talk with your future spouse. Communication between partners is absolutely essential in a strong and enduring marriage--whether it be about financial decisions, the in-laws, or raising the kids. That communication channel can begin with the planning of the wedding ceremony and certainly with the decisions concerning the honeymoon.

Finding out what your future spouse has for honeymoon expectations and matching them with yours is a good place to begin when planning a honeymoon. Do you want to go around the block, or around the world? Do you want the honeymoon to be exciting and adventurous or lazy and relaxing? Do you want to save money, or really splurge on a big ticket vacation? Do you want sunshine or snow? (Hawaii or the Canadian Rockies) Do you want to marry in the same place you plan to honeymoon? Answering these questions can help insure that your honeymoon will fulfill your wildest dreams.

Remember, the best reason for a honeymoon is to rest, relax and regroup after the stresses and rigors of planning and conducting your wedding. The peace of mind which it can bring is worth every penny. Even if you are already living together, you will need to get away and relax after all the work you have done to get to this point. Do not treat your honeymoon like another vacation; it is a very special time! A time to bond, to set new directions, lay out goals as a married couple, and to renew your romance.

According to ancient traditions, the word "honeymoon" is based upon the practice of newlyweds drinking mead, called bride ale, which was produced from fermented honey. This beverage was consumed during the first month (and therefore "moon") of marriage. The fermented drink supposedly increased virility and fertility and, consequently, the first month of marriage was referred to as the honeymoon. It is only within the last 50-60 years, however, that honeymoons have gained wide popularity. With so-called "honeymoon destinations" emerging--Cancun, Hawaii, the Caribbean, Tahiti, Italy, Las Vegas, New Orleans--these post-wedding trips offered ordinary citizens a taste of what it was like to be wealthy. Chances are good that honeymoons are here to stay.

Romance is not just roses and candles. If you are adventurous newlyweds there a many ways to enliven your honeymoon. Scuba diving, snowmobiling, parasailing, skydiving, or couples' bungee jumping are a few of the ways to spice up your honeymoon and return home with unforgettable memories of that golden getaway.

An important word of advice: don't be afraid to mention the fact that you will be honeymooning when you're making reservations for a restaurant, hotel, or cruise. Announce it when you arrive. Tell everyone! You're happy and you're in love. Special accommodations and gifts, ranging from upgraded rooms to flowers or free champagne are often given to honeymooners.

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Larry Denton is a retired history teacher having taught 33 years at Hobson High in Hobson, Montana. He is currently Vice President of Elfin Enterprises, Inc., an Internet business dedicated to providing useful information and valuable resources on a variety of timely topics. For a cruise ship full of information, resources and advice about honeymoons, visit http://www.HoneyMoonHaven.com

Where To Go For Sound Marriage Advice

I feel upset every time I hear someone giving counter productive and ridiculous advice about marriage. I don’t claim to be an expert on marriage, but I can still tell if the advice I’m hearing is good information or pure nonsense. Marriage advice is available to those who need it, but sadly, a lot of it is no good. Even the most qualified professional can give tainted marriage advice because they may have their own agenda.

A friend of mine is pretty much at the end of her marriage. She’s very devoted to her religious roots, and has made every effort to save her marriage. The problem is that all the marriage advice and counseling that she has received from different people for over four years has not helped her marriage. I find myself getting upset whenever she shares the marriage advice she has received with me.

If you belong to a church, you should probably go to your pastor or priest for marriage advice. However, you still have to consider the source, even if these people can be great sources for advice and counseling. You see, unless someone is in danger, they will never tell you that perhaps the entire affair was a mistake to begin with. It is quite obvious to me that my friend is in a hopeless situation, but her pastor will not tell her this. The marriage advice he gives will urge her to remain with her husband, unless her life is threatened.

What I’m trying to say is that you should take marriage advice and counseling from more than one source. Move on if you don’t like what you are hearing. If you find someone who tells you that a wife should bow down and be miserable for the sake of her husband, then that person is not seeing both sides. And if a woman counselor seems to be bitter towards men in general, you are going to see this in the advice on marriage she gives. Try to think clearly about what someone is saying to you no matter how miserable you may be.

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Morgan Hamilton offers expert advice and great tips regarding all aspects concerning Sound Marriage Advice. Visit our site for more helpful information about Sound Marriage Advice and other similar topics.

Infidelity Recovery for a Relationship: A HUGE Problem

Discover 3 huge barriers that inhibit couples recovering from infidelity to survive the extramarital affair and rebuild their marriage.

There is much information out there about the skills you need to rebuild a relationship after infidelity or other crisis.

But, there's a prior concern. Powerful emotional and cognitive (thinking) barriers exist that get in the way of using those skills.

Your intentions may be good, but eye-ball to eye-ball reality brings tension. The use of your new found skills evaporates and you shrink back to the negative patterns that create mistrust and distance.

Here's the problem: "How in the world do you and your partner get on the same page and begin remaking your relationship after the ton of hurt and distance you have experienced through the extramarital affair or other crisis?

I asked my clients to list 3-4 barriers that keep the two of you apart and stall the healing process.

I had over 9 pages of barriers that they listed. But, from that long I clearly was able to discern recurring themes. Below are listed 3 HUGE problems:

1. You try (very hard) but you don't get much. You ask questions. You probe. You want to know where he/she stands. You want more information. You want and need reassurance...but you don't get it. It seems that the more you try, the more He/she pulls away in his/her typical manner.

2. You back off. You are scared. You are cautious about what to say and do. You don't want to incite him/her. You feel like you are walking on egg shells. You watch and hope for some sort of indication that he/she wants the relationship. But... you are never sure. And...you feel the pain and tension internally. That's where it stays. You suffer quietly and alone.

3. Your eye is on the other person. You give him/her exorbitant power. You feel powerless to a greater or lesser degree. You hate this! You want to be your "self." But, feel stifled, unsure, broken and don't know what to say or do to break through the impasse. If only he/she would do something!

Does one of these make sense for you? Can you see yourself in this role?

Here's a simple exercise to help you move through this dilemma.

List 3 or 4 meanings that your partner's affair or crisis has for you. That is to say, what impact is the crisis having upon YOU? For example, how has is changed what you think about? how you spend your time? how you think of yourself? etc?

If you can begin sharing the personal impact of the crisis with your partner, you might experience less tension and beging seeing more progess.

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Dr. Huizenga, the Infidelity Coach, offers infidelity help and relationship advice for coping with extramarital affairs and marital infidelity at: Break Free-From-the-Affair.com and Infidelity-help.com. Get articles and free downloads on emotional infidelity, coping with infidelity, the cheating spouse, signs of an affair, surviving infidelity and more.

Infidelity: How “My Marriage Made Me Do It” is a Cop-out

Ask someone why they had, or are having an affair and you may hear something like this: “I have a lousy marriage. My marriage is dead. There is no intimacy, no sex, and no excitement. The love is gone. We’ve grown apart. I can’t stand the marriage. There was nothing happening in the marriage and the affair just happened.”

These statements are rationalizations and fail to “get at” the underlying issues.

Key points:

1. It’s as if a marriage is an animal gone bad. A marriage does not have a life of it’s own. In reality, there is no such thing as a “marriage.” One is “married” as a result of making some promises and signing a paper at one point. After the paper is signed, two people continue communicating and acting toward one another in particular ways that they hope will help them get what they individually want. Just as there is no “marriage,” there is no such thing as a “relationship.” There are, however, ways of relating for which each person is responsible. Remember the comedian Flip Wilson (that dates me) and his “The devil made me do it” skit?

2. We idealize “marriage” or “romantic relationships” with the expectation we will get what we want, without much effort to boot. The movies, popular public press and romance novels/stories don’t help much here. A “marriage” is behind the eight ball from the word go. “IT” can’t win.

3. From day one most of us don’t have a clue about how to get, build, nurture and maintain healthy and intimate ways of relating. We need ‘love 101’ and it’s not there. We rely upon experimentation or bad models.

4. If the “marriage” is dead, why in the world would one choose to have an affair? Talk about jumping from the frying pan into the fire. It really is stupid. You add a whole layer of deceit and shame that eventually will result in consequences more dire than approaching your spouse and saying, “I’m really unhappy. What I’m doing with you obviously is not working. I want out.” Oh well, maybe some people need more problems and suffering.

5. If the “marriage” is bad, obviously, I don’t have to look at me. I can blame “it” or the other. Some of us find it difficult to look at me. Some of us don’t know how to look at me. Some of us never think of looking at me.

Tip: If your partner/spouse is having and affair and blames it on the “marriage,” don’t buy into it. The “marriage” is not the problem. You are not the problem. Your spouse/partner chose the affair out of ignorance, fear or inadequacy.

The “My Marriage Made Me Do It” is just one of 7 affairs outlined in my E-book, “Break Free From the Affair.” For more information on the issues behind the other kinds of affairs and tips for dealing with them, go to: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com

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Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundreds of couples over the past two decades heal from the agony of extramarital affairs and survive infidelity. Visit his website at: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/cmd.php?ad=139627

10 Important Divorce Advice

By John Furnem

Getting married is easy but making it last is not; and so as completely untying the knots through a divorce. But if it is time for both of you to go separate ways, legally and permanently, here are the things you should prepare for.

The length of the procedure - Divorce is not a one day event; it is a process that may take several months. You cannot expect to receive your divorce decree after you file your case. Delays may even happen if there are disputes regarding child custody and marital assets and debts.

Cost of the divorce process - There are several factors that influence the cost of your divorce such as the length of the process, the hourly rate of your attorney, and the papers that should be produced. Generally, it is difficult to exactly determine how much would you pay for the whole process but for sure, the longer it takes; the bigger you pay.

Cost of separation - If you and your couple both have a source of income, then your household's financial standing may be strong. However, the moment you separate and live on your own, you will shoulder the whole expenses and bills. Make sure you can keep yourself under a roof before you confidently say that the marriage is over and it is time for you to move out.

Emotional outburst - There are lots of emotional outbursts during the whole process, and sometimes it may lead to violence. Make sure that you know how to control your emotions. This is important not only because you want to end the process peaceful but also to end the process as smooth and quickly as possible; which is of course will significantly cut your total expenses.

Physical detachment - Different couples have different reason why they file for divorce but one thing is common among them: at the end of the day or even while the petition for divorce is cooking, there is a great deal of physical detachment to your kids. Domestic violence can be a big factor to keep you away from your family. Being ready for it is very important.

Parental responsibility - Becoming a parent does not end once you are separated. You still have to finance the expenses of your children (as ordered by the court) until they are grown up. Even if you are not awarded the custody of your child, once the court says you have to give child support, then you have to give child support.

Child custody - For most cases, the mother takes the child custody, but for special reasons or if the court sees that the mother is incapable of taking care of the children, the father can keep them.

Property separation - Ultimately, the fate of your property lies on the technical rules of property division, which should be both fair and just. If there are disputes on particular property, it should be decided according to evidences you show and the court may act as the mediator.

Coping with the new set up - If you have been married for years, living alone can be devastating both emotional and physical. Knowing what to expect and learning how to cope with your present life should be your priority.

Moving on - Okay, it's over. It may take a while for you to adjust but basically, your life before divorce is very different from your life after. Move on and continue living.

This advices can help you Stop Your Divorce and you can fined more usefully information at http://stopdivorce.zupatips.com

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How You Can Be Happy And Fulfilled Whilst Being Single For The Rest Of Your Life

By Matthew Robert Payne

It seems unheard of these days for an attractive person with a job and a life ahead of them even though they are recently divorced to consider remaining single and celibate for the rest of their life. What would inspire a person with opportunity to re- marry not to do so? What could be so attractive that could encourage a person to choose a single life? Come and read my reason.

My wife left me fourteen years ago, re married eight years ago, and for those past eight years I have not seen my 15 year old son. Since my wife left, in recent times since I have come to love myself I have had four women ask me to consider marrying them. Each of them were friends and when I told them that I couldn’t do as they wish three of them didn’t want to be friends anymore. That was sad.

Can there be a life so good, so exciting, so full and so full of purpose that you don’t need a partner to be happy.

Well tell me folks can there be?

Let me tell you that my life is exciting, my days are full, I have a purpose, a destiny and dreams that I am seeing coming true and the presence and peace of God has never been as strong in my life then it has in the last two weeks.

As a male who has already had a child, I have a lot of happiness. Though I know I don’t see him now, I am confident as an adult he will seek me out and I forgive my wife for stopping him seeing me. I did my bit to populate the world.

As a Christian I am set apart for God and I am excited to be like Paul and to walk with God as a single man. He admonished those that would want to serve the Lord that being single is best though he said that this is hard for some and if lust is too much for them they should marry.

Well let me say folks it takes a disciplined Christian life as male to conquer the sex drive and the compulsion to lust. In the Old Testament somewhere there is a verse that says that the anointing breaks the yoke. This means if you can get into the state where the presence of God in your life is strong then any addiction or bondage will be broken in my simple language.

It is such a joy to be a male that God takes his sex drive away as the anointing flows in his life. It is such a joy to walk down the street without wanting to take women to bed or undressing them with your eyes. It’s such a joy to be able to speak to a lady and not be distracted by thoughts of wondering if you can date her.

God wants all of us devoted to Him. To choose to be single so that you can devote all your time to serving the Lord is a big decision yet it pays handsome dividends. When God knows you want to serve him fulltime he gives you big dreams and gets to work training you for something that it going to be very effective for him. A man or woman that chooses to lay down their life for God will always be rewarded in ways that will more then compensate.

It’s not that I don’t love woman. It’s that I want my time to be fully devoted to typing articles, speaking and exhorting by brothers and sisters in the Lord. Instead of spending an hour with my wife each night telling her how the day was, I want to have that hour to be speaking to the Lord. Instead of having a wife lonely at home when I am away for a month I want to have people happy where I am knowing that I am free to stay in their city for as the Lord wills.

The love that I have for Jesus far surpasses many people that I know. My life is crucified for Christ. My only interest is to do his will and it seems that the more I have divorced myself from the things of the world, like the desire to own things, and buying things, the more he has given me to do and to spend my money on that is going to save souls and encourage Christians to live a better life.

What wife could live with a husband that spends his money on reaching souls every week and who does not agree with buying expensive things when cheap things can be worn instead? What wife could live with a husband who has no interest in a car, no interest in a nice house of his own and who teaches his children to live for Christ in a life of self denial?

Could you live with me?

Could you cope with a husband that has no interest in fashions, the media, the popular shows on TV, no interests outside of serving God with every cent he has and every hour available?

Are you a lady that could have my zeal? Living in cheap clothes with a cheep car and a rented government housing cheap rented unit. Could you live with a man that can’t walk down a street without giving to the poor and who engages total strangers in conversation whenever you are out?

Are you a lady that wants to serve the Lord full time with all your heart, mind, time and money? Do you think God could raise you up in that ministry?

Sure he could!

Do you want to serve God and be a better use for him?

What about you men? Which of you could conceive being single from this point on and serving the Lord in the future full time? Who would deny themselves a love with a new woman for God so they can be more effective?

Do you have a vision?

Do you want to serve God?

Can you get excited about God using you in a mighty way?

God wants to use you all. He has a ministry you can all be a part of if you can only give him some of your time for free without wanting to be paid.

I challenge you seek the Lord in a way that you can serve Him. Ask him for the gift to serve him as a single person! It is a life that is rewarding.

Matthew shares his heart in these articles and can be found at http://www.online-prayer.net You can read more of his articles at his link below.

If you want a copy of his upcoming book of articles which will have the first sixty of the articles on this web-site called "The Musings of a Mad Prophet" please contact Matthew via email so he can contact you around February 2007 to tell you of the progress of the book.

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Anniversary Party Games - Bringing Back the Memories

By Gail Leino

When you’re hosting an anniversary party, games that take the guests back in time and allow them to remember “the good old days” are excellent. Here are a couple of great games:

"The Big Day" Anniversary Party Game

Anniversary party games like this are sure to bring back memories of the big day – with a lot of laughs thrown in for good measure! Prior to the party, gather together some old dresses, daggy jewellery and garters (fabric scraps will do) for the “brides” and shirts, pants and ties for the “grooms”. Put the box of clothes down one end of the room, and gather the guests at the other. Guests pair off (preferably male/female but it really doesn’t matter), and one puts on a blindfold. The object of the game is for the blind-folded players to go to the other end of the room and put on their “wedding clothes” – but their partner can only guide them with verbal instructions. The partners then swap roles. The first couple to be dressed for their “wedding” are the winners of this anniversary party game.

"The Year That Was..." Anniversary Party Game

Anniversary party games like this can be a good way for guests to test their memories and trivia skills. Before the day of the party, compile a list of questions based on the celebrities, music, culture and events of the year you got married. 20 questions should be sufficient. Guests are handed a trivia sheet upon arrival, and must fill in as many of the answers as they can. The person with the most correct answers is the winner of this anniversary game.

Mrs. Party... Gail Leino takes a common sense approach to planning and organizing events, celebrations and holiday parties with unique ideas for Anniversary party supplies and fun free educational party games. She explains proper etiquette and living a healthy life while also teaching organizational skills and fun facts. The Party Supplies Shop has lots of party ideas with hundreds of free holiday printable games and free birthday party activities. Over 100 adorable Party Themes to fit your birthday celebration, holiday event, or "just because" parties is at the Party Theme Shop. Party themes include cartoon characters, sports, movie, TV shows, luau, western, holidays, and unique crazy fun theme ideas.

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Wedding Gift Giving - FAQ and Answers Too

By Nily Glaser

Over time, our visitors, both Invitees and Marrying Couples, have asked many questions regarding Wedding Gift Giving

This article is formatted as Questions and answers.
A-wedding Day hopes that they will help answer some of your questions. If not, please feel free to Email us your questions.

Please note that
Q stands for Question
S stands for Statement
A stands for Answer

WEDDING GUESTS ASK:

Q. I am invited to a wedding. The invitation arrived and with it a wish list and store registries where the bride and groom entered the items they want to receive.

S. I do not plan to attend. Do I need to send a gift?
A. You do not have to, but it is a nice gesture to send a gift whether or not you plan to attend.

Q. Do I have to give an item chosen by the bride and groom?
A. No! While it is nice to help the couple acquire items they have chosen, a unique gift can be just as and even more welcomed.

Q. Do I have to purchase from one of their bridal registries?
A. No. You may shop anywhere, though the bridal registries will inform you of which items have already been purchased.

Q. Can I purchase a gift for the wedding itself rather than for the future?
A. Absolutely! Providing the bride and groom receive it in time for the wedding. In fact it is a good idea because just about any gift used at the wedding will become a cherished keepsake.

Q. What would make a memorable gift for the wedding?
Any item personalized with the bride and groom's first names and wedding date such as: Toasting Flutes, Cake Servers, Unity Candles, etc...
One, a few or even an entire collection of Wedding Accessories such as: Toasting Flutes, Cake Servers, Unity Candles, Guest Books and matching pens, Garters, Ring Bearer Pillow, hankies, caketops etc... But DO NOT make it a surprise gift. Consult with the bride and groom to assure that they do not have these items yet. If not, find out if they plan a theme wedding and purchase accordingly or better yet, let THEM CHOOSE the items.

Q. Can I shop on line for wedding gifts?
A.Sure! Actually this is the easiest way to engage the bride and groom, near or far, should you need their input in choosing a gift for the wedding.
Shopping online is your most convenient way to acquire unique gifts which may not be available in stores.
Ideas: Personalized wedding gifts, personalized candles, etc... When you shop on line, a click of the mouse or a phone call from your home or office, allows you to purchase, gift wrap, enclose a personalized gift card and ship a gift to directly to the couple.

Q. Should I bring my gift to the wedding site?
A. Preferably not!
Most wedding sites do not provide security. Thus, Gifts can easily be damaged or misplaced or, sad to say taken. The bride and groom are much too busy and excited to worry about gathering up gifts. Thus, some gifts could easily be left behind.

Q. How do I make sure that the bride and groom receive my gift?
A. Send the gift to the Bride's address, grooms address or the address on the RSVP envelope that came with the wedding invitation.

BRIDES AND GROOMS ASK:

S. We plan to give each other gifts at the wedding. What is the best time to do so?
A. Gift exchange between brides and grooms has become rather popular. The best time for brides and grooms to exchange gifts is at the ceremony, as soon as they are no longer bride and groom. That is immediately following the officiant presenting the new Mr. and Mrs. but after lighting the Unity Candle.

Q. What kinds of gifts will be appropriate?
A. Give each other gifts that are keepsakes. Personalized gifts and jewelry top the list.

S. As a blending family, we plan to acknowledge our kids as part of our union. We would like to give them special gifts at the wedding.

Q. What is the best time to do so?
A. This is a wonderful way to welcome your kids into the new family creatid by your union.
The best time for you to give your kids a gift is at the ceremony immediately following your gift exchange, or immediately after your rings exchange and vows. This is especially appropriate if you plan to include the kids in your vows and, if age appropriate, in lighting the Unity Candle.

Q. What kinds of gifts will be appropriate?
Here a piece of jewelry such as the family unity jewelry (pendants, rings, lapel pins/tie clips etc...) will be a perfect gift.

Q. Are there specific etiquetes regarding giving gifts to our wedding party and family?
S. We need some ideas of gifts of appreciation to our bestman, maid of honor, bridesmaids, ushers, groomsmen, parents grand parents flower girl and ring bearer (boy).
A. Gifts, their cost and whether you should give everyone the same gift is at your discresion. But since you asked, we'll provide you with some ideas.

IDEAS for GIFTS for WOMEN

Gifts for Maid of Honor, Bridesmaids, mothers, grandmothers

A. The most appropriate gifts will be keepsake mementos.
The mothers and the maid of Honor generally receive gift of greater value than the bridesmaids, but this is not mandatory.
Gifts personalized with either their names, title (mother, maid of honor etc...), or bride and groom's name and wedding date serve as both thank you and keepsake mementos.
Ideas: Personalized candles, frames or photo albums to later add your wedding pictures to, jewelry, some part of their wedding attire, toasting flutes or mugs, jewelry boxes, key chains, clocks, make-up kits, crystal or silver vases, crystal bowls, collectibles etc...
Pampering gifts Ideas:bath oils, gift baskets, candles, a day at a spa etc...

IDEAS for GIFTS FOR MEN

Gifts for Best Man, Groomsmen/Ushers, fathers, grandfathers

A. Here too the most appropriate gifts will be keepsake mementos.
The fathers and the best man generally receive gifts of greater value than the Groomsmen/Ushers, but this is not mandatory.
Ideas: Personalized candles, frames or photo albums to later add your wedding pictures to, beer mugs or pilsners, toasting flutes, drinks shakers, can cooler koozies, money clips, travel cases, wood jewelry boxes, unique items reflecting their individual interests, bar sets, desk clocks, business card holders, key chains, pocket watches, Swiss Army products, high quality pens/pen sets.

IDEAS for GIFTS FOR PARENTS and GRANDPARENTS

A. Wedding mementos including a special album, picture frames and video/cd of your wedding are most appreciated by parents. They will display them and re-live your happy day every time they look at your wedding pictures.

IDEAS for GIFTS FOR FLOWERGIRL(S)/RING BEARER(S)

Ideas: Here your gift such as a coloring book set, or books about being a flower girl or ring bearer may will depend on the age of the child. However, long lasting gifts can be given to a child of any age. Ideas: Jewlry, jewelry box, silver bank, a framed photo of him/her with you on your wedding day, something relating to the child's interest, a stuffed animal etc...

IDEAS for GIFTS FOR GUESTS

S. It has become customary to gift your wedding guests with wedding favors to thank them for helping you celebrate your big day.
Actually, favors should be multi-purpose.
ideas: Insert place cards in Small frames, Insert place cards in silver holders, order personalized pens and have each guest keep the pen after signing your guest book, place a dessert (Candy, nuts, cake, etc..) in a keepsake container, etc... Assign one of your attendants to announce that these are Thank you souvineers from the bride and groom.

S. We plan to give our guests memento thank you gifts.

Q. Should we also send them Thank-You notes?
A. Absolutely! Each guests gave you a gift personally. Most guests put thought into what to get and purchased, wrapped and delivered it to you on or before your wedding.
You must acknowledge their efforts individually with a Thank-You note.

S. We have a large wedding party. By the time we add both sets of parents, grandparents and a few other relatives, we come up with more than 10 men and more than 10 women. We are on a budget. Giving each a large gift is prohibitive but we do not want to give "cheapy" gifts.

Q. Can you help?
A. We hope so! You must consider your budget when choosing your gifts but you do not necessarily have to pass up gifts you like. Always remember that a little creativity and thoughtfulness can go a long way. If you are creative you can put together gifts from the heart. Write or draw someting special and place it in a frame. find small items that will be appreciated by a sports enthusiast, stamp collectors, a gardening buffs, etc... and make little gift baskets. Your thoughtfullness will be appreciated by the recipients.
Otherwise, choose two gifts - one for the men and one for women - and buy them in bulk. Many retailers will give you a price break based on quantity - IF YOU ASK THEM TO.
This will help keep your costs down and save you time too.
If you shop on-line Email a note to the online vendors asking if they can give you a break for buying X number of the same item. They may not offer it but some may consider doing so when requested. We at A-wedding Day do.
S. Be aware that because of the way internet shopping carts are set up, the discount will not show up on your online confirmation. The vendor will have to deduct the discount when charging your credit card and will need to email you the amount actually charged. It should reflect your cost after the price reduction.

Q. When is the best time to present our thank you gifts to our parents, grandparents and wedding attendants?
A. You may do so at the rehearsal dinner because of the intimate setting with your family and closest friends. Or, you may choose to present each in a private setting where you can express your gratitude to each participant individually.

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Does Your Sexless Marriage Have You Thinking About Divorce?

By Karl Augustine

If you are in a sexless marriage and are unhappy because of it, don't worry, it isn't unrecoverable but it is serious cause for concern. You may even be thinking that you need a divorce because of your sexless marriage, that's only natural. But, in order to really decide what to do, some thinking needs to be done so you feel good about your decision, regardless if you stay married or not.

Being stuck in a sexless marriage can have you feeling a wide range of feelings from loneliness, listlessness, confusion, unconfident, etc. These feelings come about for a variety of reasons and they can be overcome if you just figure out why you're in a sexless marriage. You need to get to the root of the problem and uncover the real reasons that you and your spouse are no longer sexually active assuming of course, you once were!

To get to the heart of the causes for a sexless marriage will take some time. On the surface, you may be thinking that the cause of your sexless marriage may include one or more of the following scenarios:

Sexless Marriage: "We both work too much!":

You both work extremely hard and there just never seems to be enough time to get together, your schedules are skewed. This is true a lot nowadays with the 'new' economy, lots of couples are married but just live together like roommates if both parties have 'time-consuming' careers. If not managed properly, it is unfortunate but common for people in this type of lifestyle to end up in a sexless marriage.

Sexless Marriage: "You work, I stay home with the kids!":

One of you works very hard with your career and one of you stays home to raise the children (child), which is equally as hard as any career! This situation can lead to a sexless marriage in many cases because of the seemingly disparate priority base of each party. The spouse with the career may need to work after hours, travel, or attend "post work" functions and the spouse who stays home raising the children (child) may not have any other outlet for relaxation away from the home front. This situation can easily lead to a sexless marriage because there may be underlying feelings from both sides that contribute to an already tough situation based on personal and work related schedules.

The spouse with the career may say at times, "Why do you think I work so hard? I do it for you, the kids, our family, etc.". The spouse who stays home with the children (child) may say at times, "You have another release, you have social interaction daily with the outside world. I feel stuck here sometimes, I need to get out and have time for myself.". If the spouse that stays home feels like the spouse with the career enjoys being out and working more than being home, that calls for a whole different and escalated level of concern! Chances are the sexless marriage was bound to be that way before the current situation even arose.

Sexless Marriage: "I don't know why...there's just no spark left, you don't pay enough attention to me and our sex life and I guess I don't either!":
This is a common sexless marriage situation and it can be caused by a variety of things including emotional scars, bad experiences, boredom, laziness, etc. In this situation, there is deep cause for concern from both parties because both parties aren't happy sexually but don't really know why it ended up this way. Both parties have just "let things go" and didn't place a high enough priority on their sex life with their spouse, which in and of itself is very concerning.

Why would either or both parties let things get this way when love making is so important?

Sometimes there's a feeling of being taken for granted that can occur in this type of sexless marriage, and both parties should realize that sex is a basic human need and should take priority over other things at the right time. It takes work to get out of this type of sexless marriage, you need to sit down and figure out why your marital love life has dwindled. If you both really want to rekindle things, you can do so, but you both need to take equal responsibility for correcting the problem.

Whatever type of sexless marriage you are in (there's certainly more types than listed here), remember that it is not unrecoverable. If you're to the point of thinking about getting a divorce because of your sexless marriage, take the time to sit down and figure out how it got to be the way it is now.

If you've lost interest in your spouse from a sexual point of view, you need to define exactly why that occurred. If you don't know right off hand, you need to think back to a time when you did 'have the spark' and recall what you both were doing, feeling, thinking, etc. From that point, identify what has changed, why it has changed, and what you can do about it. When you get that portion figured out, you may well on your way to taking the first step of recovering from your sexless marriage. Remember, if you really want to rekindle your relationship, you can.

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Stop Your Divorce Save Your Marriage And Ways To Get Your Ex Back

By Steve Gee

The problem with the advice you get from most marriage guidance councillors is that it involves effort from both you and your partner. This is ok if both of you want to repair the relationship and avoid breaking up but what if your partner isn't interested in saving your marriage? You're unlikely to get the results you are looking for if this is the case but what if I could show you some ways to get your ex back even if your ex doesn't want to come back?

Relationships are great in the beginning

Relationships are often wonderful to start with. You are both fresh to each other and you're still discovering how great it can be together. As time goes by however, you get used to each other and if you don't keep doing new and exciting things to keep the interest levels up then there is a tendency for you to grow apart. Sooner or later one partner decides that they've had enough and leaves.

Wake up your marriage is failing

It's often the case that one partner suddenly wakes up at this point and realises what's happened, realises what's been happening for months or maybe even years without even noticing. Panic sets in at the thought of losing your loved one and you start to plead with your soon-to-be ex to change their mind. You pour out your heart to her and promise that all sorts of things will change.

Stop - You won't save your marriage by pleading

The last thing you should do is plead with your partner to change her mind because she won't, in fact you'll just make things worse. Don't make promises that you can't keep because she won't believe you anyway. I know that it's hard but you must take a step back from the situation and get on with your own life. Showing that you can live without her will actually draw her towards you. It's strange I know but it's true.

Get a life - you might be surprised by what happens

I remember a long time ago when my long-standing relationship was breaking up. We had drifted apart for many reasons and I'd tried very hard for a very long time to stop my partner from leaving. Nothing worked and I finally gave up when I realised that I'd be better off getting a life than trying desperately to hold on to one that was obviously going nowhere.

What happened next surprised the life out of me. I stopped pleading and I told her that I'd accepted that it was all over and that we should go our separate ways. I thought that was what she wanted but was I wrong? Now it was me who was the bad guy! I was the one breaking up the relationship not her and she wanted to get it back.

I'm afraid things had gone too far for me at this point and my ex's pleading simply pushed me further away but I can't help wondering what would have happened had I known this secret a lot earlier. We might still be together and happily married. If you understand this secret you could stop your divorce and save your marriage.

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Marriage- Divorce- Repeat- Marriage- Divorce- Repeat

By Alyssa Johnson

On the home page of my website I have a quote saying “Over 60% of re-marriages end in re-divorce.” I frequently get asked, “Why is the divorce rate higher?” People state confusion over this because they believe that since they’ve been divorced once before, they’ll know the danger signs to look for and they are more determined to have what they call a “successful” marriage.

All of that sounds good, but let’s look at what the realities are. The following are some of the most common reasons for a higher divorce rate in remarriage.

A remarriage has one of the same partners who were present in your last marriage. Most people don’t take the time to evaluate WHAT went wrong. They just assume the problem was the WHO. Unfortunately that’s not the case. It’s important to look at what happened to cause the marriage to deteriorate. While it’s tempting to assume that your ex-spouse was the problem, they weren’t 100% responsible. Without taking time to look at YOUR part in the marriage’s demise, you are destined to repeat the similar, if not the same, mistakes.

A divorce experience doesn’t suddenly reveal special awareness of relationship danger signs. Unfortunately, people jump into new relationships way too quickly after their divorce. They are not truly prepared to be in a committed relationship in the way that a new marriage requires. Most people are still reeling from the many changes and/or losses they experienced as a result of their divorce. Continuing to be wrapped up in what happened in your last marriage doesn’t build a stable foundation for a new marriage.

Remarriage commitment is less than in a first marriage. By being in a remarriage, it means one member of your couple has been married before. If the previous marriage ended in divorce that means a conscious decision was made to terminate the marriage. That’s a boundary which was crossed over. After that boundary is breached once, it is much easier to come to that conclusion again. Divorce isn’t an unknown entity. You may not have liked it but you endured it. Because of this, it becomes a more viable option than it did in a first marriage as soon as things get rough.

A step family is an unknown in our society. Step families are quickly becoming the most common family unit, but does anyone have a clue how they are supposed work? We still base our ideas of family on the old standard of a nuclear family (mom, dad, and their biological children.) A step family does NOT fit this mold. When new step families see that their family doesn’t come close to resembling what they expected, it’s common for them to start questioning their decision to remarry.

Divorce is painful. There’s no getting around it. You hurt, you ex-spouse hurts, and your children hurt. Rather than running to the altar because you’re “in love”, take time to step back and prepare. Don’t put yourself and your children through the pain of another divorce. Be wiser. Be a better partner rather than just looking for a better one.

Visit http://www.Remarriagesuccess.com for more information on how to prepare as a couple and a family for a successful remarriage. I invite you to register today for your free 5 day e-course focusing specifically on other differences you will encounter in a remarriage versus your first marrige at http://www.Remarriagesuccess.com/e-course.htm. Alyssa Johnson, MSW, LCSW is the founder and CEO of Remarriage Success. She may be reached through her website at http://www.Remarriagesuccess.com where she encourages your feedback and suggestions.

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How To Get Your Wife Back After Divorce

By Steve Gee

People sometimes do marry the same person twice believe it or not

It's not impossible to get your wife back after you have divorced. If you want to know how to get your wife back after divorce you could look for inspiration at one of the most famous examples of people marrying twice. The actor Richard Burton remarried Elizabeth Taylor again after they got divorced. But how can two people that have gone through the trauma of divorce, ever get back together again?

It's a lot easier to prevent divorce before it gets to the point of legal separation and finality but the process of patching things up and getting back together again is the same whether you have divorced or not.

I'm not a marriage councillor nor did I manage to prevent my 20-year relationship from breaking up amicably when we had drifted apart. Over the years I've watched as many of my friends got divorced and I've noticed a few things that are common in all these situations including my own.

The broken relationships that I've witnessed seemed to fail either because neither partner wanted to save it, or just one of the pair wanted to and used techniques that appeared very reasonable at the time but were completely ineffective.

If at least one of you wants to stop divorce then you have a chance to do so

I guess that there's nothing to be done when neither partner wants to save the marriage but there has to be at least a chance if one of you does. So what is it that so many people in this situation do wrong?

Perhaps they try too hard. They plead with their partner to reconsider and promise that they will change their ways. This is natural human behaviour and most would consider it a reasonable course to take but it rarely works unfortunately. If you're trying to get your wife back after a divorce or prevent your marriage breaking up then pleading is the last thing you should do. You should be concentrating on making yourself more attractive to your partner instead of persuading her that you're weak by pleading and lying about changes that you'll make that she knows that you won't.

Be strong, that’s how to get your wife back after divorce

Don't plead, don't argue and don't become inconsistent by agreeing with her opinion just because you think that's what she wants to hear. Be strong, dress well and start to take charge of your own life. Show her that you can live without her; she just might decide that she's missing something by not being with you.

Women are attracted to men who are strong and capable of protecting them. They're repulsed by weak pleading and prefer to do the chasing themselves. So be strong, confident, self sufficient and consistent with your opinions. It could make all the difference and the secret of how to get your wife back after divorce.

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Divorce May Be the Wrong Choice

By Eva Fry

If you are thinking of divorcing your mate, I pray my thoughts will help you reconsider your decision. I believe that most troubled marriages don’t have to end in divorce.

I have been married for almost 48 years. Many times, though the years, I thought of divorcing my husband. I am so thankful I choose to stick to my marriage and to make things work.

Why am I thankful I stayed married to my husband and kept my family together?

1. My husband and I are happy today. I’m so glad we didn’t quite the times we were unhappy. We have had to learn to live with things we didn’t like about each other. We have had to learn to forgive and love, anyway. We have had to find ways to try to keep each other happy. We have even gone for counseling. The times I was hurting the most, I had to ask God to help me love him. One good thing we had was we could communicate with each other even though we didn’t always agree but we did learn to talk things over. Thankfully we were committed to our marriage.

Keeping a marriage together is not an easy task, with each mate being different and having different needs, but if you both really want your marriage to work you will find a way, if you are committed.

2. My family is still a complete unit. We are the same Mom and Dad to our kids. Because of this, our children are more stable than many of the kids of our friends and family members who chose to divorce.

Why do our kids seem more stable than many others whose families divorced?

a. They grew up in a two-parent home. The most important thing, for a child, is to have its own mother and father. They will never be as happy in another situation.

As parents, we are responsible to give our kids the best life possible. Divorce can cause negative experiences they will have to live with for the rest of their lives. If we are not good parents we need to become good parents.

Selfishness is the most common reason for divorce. When we only think of ourselves grave consequences follow. We must become selfless. We must develop the attributes of a loving, giving, considerate and selfless person if we want our marriages to work and our families to stay together.

If you are able to do this you will bless your own life. Your greatest personal happiness will come from your own happy family.

b. They did not have to go from parent to parent, according to how much time the court determined should be spent with each parent.

This is how many children today live. Shuffled from parent to parent. You need to find a way to get along with your mate. Sometimes you are the only one doing all the giving but often that’s just how it is because you are doing it for the future happiness of your kids and your family. Of course there are limits. Some behaviors should not be accepted but endurance is often what is necessary. Often you must wait on God to answer your prayers and teach you the things you both need to learn on how to create a happy family and how to love.

c. They did not have to live through the disagreements and arguments associated with divorcing. I am so thankful my kids didn’t have to experience this.

When we get married and have children we have the responsibility to do all we can to give our kids the happiest life possible. Through divorce I see kids taking on the pains of parents who hate each other and they use their kids as skate goats. Why should any child have to live through war as their parent’s battle it out? If you are doing this you need to fix it. If you live with a contentious person you do not have to respond in a contentious manner. It takes two to fight. You must look at yourself and determine how you are contributing to the war and stop your part in it. Ask God to show you how. Learn to keep your mouth shut or walk away. Learn to talk to God about your hurts and ask for His help. I had to learn this.

d. They didn’t have to adjust to new stepparents or new
stepsiblings. Learning to get along with their own brothers and sisters, in their own family was hard and learning to be obedient to us as parents was hard. My children did learn this.

I have seen so much pain in kids whose parents divorced and brought in new mates and stepchildren who didn’t care for the kids and were often bad people.

e. I believe my children were kept safer. They were under my roof, where I could protect them. If they had to share their life with their father and another wife I would never have know how they were being treated.

I have often seen the new partner resent the kids and treat them badly.

f. They did not have to live in a single parent household. I’m thankful my kids didn’t have to go through that experience and I didn’t have to go through it either.

I see mothers struggle to work full time and care for their families, by themselves. In reality there just isn’t enough time to do both as well as you can do if you have a mate.

g. I was able to be a stay-at-home mom. If my husband and I had parted I would have had to work. I’m thankful I could be there when they came home from school.

So many children come home to an empty house.

How is my personal life better because I stayed in my Marriage?

I’m proud of myself. I’m so thankful that with The Lords Help I did all I could to make my marriage work. I love being married. I have peace in my life that so many others don’t have. I’m thankful that I love my husband today. I’m thankful we have had time to get to know each other, to mellow and to learn about life so our love could grow.
As I look at others who divorced, I recognize that many left their marriages too soon, before they had time to make their relationship work.

I’m grateful to have a companion today. Many divorced people are alone. When you divorce and remarry you take on a whole set of new problems. You may think your life will be better but often you are jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Life ends up worse, not better. I know there are second marriages and families that do work out but often their second attempt does not solve all their problems. The saddest part of a divorce is that often those who divorce wish they could have their old life back, but it is too late.

I have had a more comfortable life than some of my friends who divorced. Thankfully we still have what we have accumulated together. I’m thankful we were able to provide a better life for our children.

Often finances are the greatest problem in divorced homes.
The divorce forces them to split everything they have and pay a lot of what they have to the Attorney’s.

Please consider the above facts before you choose to divorce.

I am thankful for the times that I stayed with my husband for the sake of the kids. I didn’t want to hurt them. I knew that their needs were more important than mine. It would have been easy for me to walk away but I put my kids first. I remember thinking, “I will leave my husband when the kids grew up,” but when that time came, I had learned to love him more and I didn’t want to leave.

I believe the reason my husband and I have stayed married is because we wanted to stay married. Thankfully we were willing to endure hard times and stay committed in spite of mistakes made by the each of us. We also were aware that we could not expect perfection from the other if we were not perfect ourselves. I especially found that serving my husband was the best way to make things work, even when he didn’t deserve my service. As the years have gone by, he has learned to appreciate me and thank me for my faithfulness, kindness and caring. I have also learned to accept and appreciate him and be aware of the good in him, which I was unable to see when we were younger. We are very happy today and I’m so thankful I didn’t give up before we got to this point. It can take years to get to this point but better late than never and you can give up so much if you quit too soon.

I’m so grateful that when we have family get togethers they have only one Mom and one Dad and I’m so thankful my husband doesn’t have another wife and I don’t have another husband. I can only imagine how messed up things could be.

You may be thinking that your life has been harder than mine and that you have more reasons to divorce than I did. This may be so but I have been through extremely hard times, too. I have endured and survived some of the same things that have caused others to divorce. Through those hard times I have learned and grown and my marriage has become stronger. Sometimes hard times are given to us for that reason so we can truly discover who we are and what we are made of. Also to help us to get to know who our mates really are.

I don’t think God ever planned for life to be easy. I think he intended us to experience trials to prove ourselves to Him and to help us reach our potential. Some of our greatest trials have been the ones we have gained the most growth from.

I encourage any of you who are thinking of divorce to consider the things that I have said. I know that God will help. Some times you are totally on your own in your marriage but He will make up for the things you don’t have in another way, as you wait for things to get better. In the end, if you are faithful, He will bless you.

I also believe that God will help any two people find happiness if they have Christ as the center of their marriage and if they choose to care for their mates and their children more than their own happiness.

I believe God wants families to stay together. Raising a family takes two, the father and the mother. If you both strive to please one another you will become “ONE” as The Lord Intended. I’m sure God intended FAMILIES TO BE TOGETHER FOREVER.

I am very thankful I stayed married and my family is still a complete unit.

Eva Fry's mission is to help others become better and happier. She is an inspirational author, singer/songwriter/ motivational speaker and seminar leader. Eva has published three books -
"YOU MUST HAVE A DREAM" -for seniors,
"BE A WINNER IN LIFE"-for good kids, troubled kids and their parents.
"LETTERS FROM JUVENILE HALL, KIDS HELPING KIDS" (Actual letters from kids at Juvenile Hall, intended to save other kids from destroying their lives)
She invites you to use the FREE ARTICLES she has written for: at- risk kids
Also FREE ARTICLES of inspiration to help meet life's challenges. http://www.evafry.com
She has produced 7 Music CD's

“Remember” (new music for seniors),
“Oh What Joy Christmas”
“The Little Things” (inspirational country),
“I Love Living The Teachings of The Lord” (Gospel/Christian)
“Savior of Mine” – (Christian)
“God Gave You Intelligence” (for children)

“Classical Style” (instrumental)

Her music and books can be purchased at http://www.evafry.com
Her books can also be ordered at any bookstore.

Her articles have been published, all over the world.

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